It can be difficult to talk to an alzheimer's care patient. A conversation with them isn't like talking to anyone else. It takes patiences, love, and a willingness to let go of normal conversational standards. You can't expect the give and take, back and forth that you find in most discussions. Fortunately, there are a few tips that can help make it easier to carry on a conversation.

Be Patient - This is certainly the most important. As obvious as it might seem, this can be the hardest part of talking to an Alzheimer's care patient. It's temptimg to supply a lost word or finish a sentence that is taking a little too long to come out. Resist the urge and try to wait. If you feel they aren't making any progress, you can help a little. If your loved one is standing in the kitchen repeating "I need... I need..." Then ask a questions or two to help them find the words they need. Ask your loved one "Are you hungry? Would you like a snack?"

Discover Their Reality - The world they live in is different from ours. Alzheimer's caregivers need to understand that, to their loved one, real is fluid. One day, a deceased spouse may still be alive. I literally saw my grandfather six to seven days a week, even after I was no longer able to keep him at home and found a wonderful facility for him. One day he greeted me with "It's been years since I saw you." A big part of Alzheimer's care is learning ro take these things in stride. You can't convince them of the truth, and the next day he was well aware that I was a fixture in his life, and was even impatient because I was later than usual.

Look as Well as Listen - Sometimes, an Alzheimer's caregiver has to ignore the words and look for visual clues. Patients often struggle to find the right words, and you can't always count on them being the right ones. Plucking at clothes might be a sign of physical discomfort. Eyes repeatedly drawn to the window might indicate a desire to go outside.

Be Creative - Words aren't always enough. When you are asking an Alzheimer's care patient to choose between two options, show them the choices instead of just asking. If you need to know if she is cold, show her a blanket when you ask. A barely noticeable pulling away might indicate that she isn't cold, even if she can't get the right words out.

Keep Talking - Even once your loved one has stopped communicating meaningfully, don't quit talking to them. Alzheimer's care involves more than the conscious mind, and your loved one will respond even when they can't understand the words. A familiar voice can help with anxiety and improve cooperation.

If you would like to read more articles on Alzheimer's care, visit www.OurCareCommunity.com - a free resource for families looking for eldercare for a loved one. Members can share their ideas and experiences, find the latest information on senior care issues, and connect with other members to get answers and advice.

Contributing Editor: Julie Sanocki, CNA
Julie is a graduate of the Certified Nursing Assistant program and has over 10 years experience in elder care. Having been a family member arranging eldercare as well as a professional providing it, she understands the needs and concerns of all involved.


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